Most people only think of the nuclear family they have today when planning their estate, says Kevin Rogers, managing director and family wealth advisor at BNY Mellon Wealth Management. But for a family with a sizable estate, it’s crucial to consider how to preserve wealth for three, four or even five generations into the future.
Clear communication and collaboration are other prevalent stumbling blocks.
“The adage that ‘he or she who has the gold makes the rules’ becomes the problem,” Rogers says, explaining that even though the client may be “making the rules,” they should consider others’ perspectives.
Too often, estate planners fail to involve beneficiaries in structuring the estate. For example, planners may work with grandparents to make decisions about their grandchildren without talking first with the children’s parents.
Whether implementing trust restrictions or forming family LLCs, high-net-worth individuals should seek their family’s input. That doesn’t necessarily mean they have to accept all of the suggestions, Rogers says, but factoring wants and needs into decisions is critical.
Joan Crain, senior director and global family wealth strategist at BNY Mellon Wealth Management, encourages clients to share a Letter of Wishes with trustees, in order to communicate their hopes and goals when establishing trusts and broader wealth plans. It’s also important to hold regular family meetings to discuss successive information and family values, she says. Having an objective facilitator lead these meetings is often useful, and preparation is critical so that the facilitator gains insights into family dynamics and the objectives of the meetings.
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Clients are often inclined to designate one of their children as the estate executor (who distributes assets according to their wills) or trustee (who administers and manages the assets in a continuing trust). But it’s important to consider whether that person has not only the intellectual ability but also the time and emotional ability to work collaboratively with other family members to settle the estate, says Crain.
“More often than not, even if the children got along great while mom and dad were alive, when it comes to dividing the money and addressing the legal issues after the parents have died, problems arise,” Crain says. “It puts a big burden on the person who’s chosen and often ends up in discord.”
Rogers offers a similar perspective, reminding clients that choosing someone as an executor is not a gift. When siblings fight over the responsibility, for example, Rogers explains to them that the decision is not about playing favorites.
To avoid conflict, Crain recommends appointing an independent or corporate trustee, whether that’s a wealth management firm, a family attorney or another trusted advisor. This third party can serve as co-trustee with one of the children, if necessary, but will be responsible for making the difficult decisions and communicating with the family.
In addition to a proactive wealth management firm, high-net-worth individuals should also include additional professional advisors such as a certified public accountant, an estate planning attorney, an appraiser if a business is being bought or sold and an insurance expert.
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Rogers says one of the most pressing concerns for high-net-worth individuals who transfer wealth is what happens once a family member gets access to the money, especially if a beneficiary struggles with money management or other challenges that could make them vulnerable to financial losses.
Rogers and Crain say trust incentives as well as restrictions can be an effective tool in these situations. For example, incentive trusts can contain clauses that require family members to show their W-2 to receive a distribution that matches their salary—incentivizing beneficiaries to continue earning their own paychecks. Conversely, clients can use clauses that limit withdrawals by their beneficiaries to specified emergencies, education or health expenses, or business ventures.
Both experts say it’s crucial for estate owners to communicate their intentions early and often, allow for some flexibility in how the money can be spent and use legal protections when necessary to safeguard generational wealth.
“What people are trying to avoid is the common negative issues with wealth—getting into bad habits or spending money frivolously,” Rogers says. “They want to give their loved ones the opportunity to have a leg up in life.”
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