CLEAN SLATE
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When you meet someone for the first time, imagine that you have a chalkboard. When the labels, beliefs, and judgments spring to mind, write them on your imaginary chalkboard. Acknowledge them. Then, use an imaginary eraser and wipe the slate clean. Everyone has a story to tell, with unique circumstances that influence where they are today. Don’t assume to know what’s going on below the surface. Pause. Listen. Discover the person inside. Not only will this reduce the stigma they may feel, but you can uncover subtle aspects of their life that affect their health and find ways to help.
But when we do this with people, we tend to stereotype them and give them a set of associated traits and pass judgment without getting to know the person first. Just thinking these labels to ourselves can affect how we treat and interact with others, which can ultimately harm their health. For instance, if we assume a woman who is overweight is lazy, we might not invite her to engage in physically strenuous activities in our community or workplace. But she might want to participate. By not inviting her to join in, we create a barrier to health and perpetuate feelings of social isolation.
It’s natural for us to associate certain things and beings with broader groups and patterns of behavior. It’s a biological trait that helps us process and approach situations with caution. For example, we learn to group animals that have large bodies, quick movements and sharp teeth, like lions, with other predators. Doing this helps us proceed carefully and protect ourselves by not petting the lion like we would a house cat.